If I am being honest with myself, I knew when he asked to call me mom, my answer was not coming from a kind and loving place. I knew I was coming from a "you already have a mom, and you are her responsibility, not mine" type of place. And, a place of "you are too much "work" for me."
Co-parenting with a narcissist is like being the tin man from the wizard of oz, having motion sickness, on the downward spiral of a roller coaster, with a loose harness, after eating ice cream and 5 corn dogs - doing the tango with a peg leg and an eye patch all the while sewing back together and re-stuffing down feathered pillows your dog chewed up and scattered throughout the back forty - it's freaking difficult!!
I should not have to be in fear dropping my children off at school, that they may be a victim today because you were afraid to be a good parent yesterday!
Do you have an ex in your life, which makes your life hell? Does it feel like even though your spouse got divorced, that they are still married? Would it surprise you to find out that you put up with more than you have to, simply because the ex says you do? Below are nine... Continue Reading →
Okay, so it is hard... it really is. And, honestly if you haven’t thought to yourself “What the hell am I doing here, or dealing with this for?” at least once, you aren't doing it right. Stepping into, or welcoming someone into a blended family - is much more than just another pound of ground... Continue Reading →
One of the most vital parts of being a parent is making mistakes. Mistakes are what causes growth and results in lessons and ultimately change. On a daily basis I make mistakes and there are times I lay awake at night reviewing those, and how I made them, why I made them – and how... Continue Reading →
It's not about being a Bio-mom or a Step-mom - it's about being a parent either way. My opinions on this are very strong - because I am both, and my children have both. Our children, my biological, my husbands biological, my ex-husbands biological child from a different relationship and his wife's biological from a previous marriage - do... Continue Reading →
Listening to my husband explain about his ex when we were dating really went in one ear and out the other. You see, I was divorced, and I knew the dad's side of things and my side of things. Many people disliked me because of the dad's side which was so far from the truth... Continue Reading →
Earlier this week if you follow my Facebook page, you'll remember my posting about some educated and experience stepmother's in this world have very firm ideas of where the line is drawn in parenting. In The Erin Experiment, a blog post written in 2010 she writes: "Regardless of if the Bio-Mom is a... Continue Reading →