This girl; she is more common than you realize. She is your sister, your mother, your wife or girlfriend. She is the lady beside you at church that cries every Sunday. She is your grandmother, your teacher, your coach, your therapist, your doctor; or maybe she is you. And, she is just as loved by God as you are. We don't know her backstory, we don't know what led her to a choice we may not choose or understand, and very few understand the torment that consumes her life after she realizes what she's done.
Every year just before Christmas, my husband’s grandma would call him and invite us to the family breakfast at our local Elmer’s restaurant. “Matthew, this is Grandma”, she’d say, and he would respond by saying, “Yes Grandma, I know it is you, it says your name in my phone” and they would share a laugh.
The honest and good men, they exist, and I didn't have to settle, I didn't have to allow him to hurt me to feel loved temporarily, or chase him for attention, affection, or temporary stability. He chose to stay, he chose to be kind, to be considerate, to listen, to communicate and to love me for me - even when I feel like I don’t deserve it. And, he makes that choice every day, because he chooses to.
I see you on YouTube figuring out how to fix your cars, your appliances, and reading empowerment quotes to boost yourself. You are TOUGH. You show the world you got this. But, in your free “few” minutes when you take a shower, you cry, you crumble, and you are not feeling so tough.
It is true, you may be scared and uneasy maybe even willing to self sabotage it once it arrives - but the ability to love someone new, a last ditch effort of maybe this could be the elusive one - is there inside everyone. But, why? Why not just completely rule out the possibility of... Continue Reading →
Myths:∗Don’t be a Mom, be their friend∗Don’t be the disciplinarian∗Stepchildren should be allowed to misbehave∗It is easier without the other parents involvement.∗You will eventually grow to love them, and they will love you.Chances are, if you are a stepparent, you've had these said to you by either a successful stepparent whose life is perfect... Continue Reading →
Being a mom means more than having given birth to a child. Its loving and knowing a soul before you even see it. It’s carrying, and caring for a life completely depending on you for survival. It’s giving air to the lungs that grew with-in you, and sight to the eyes that will never see... Continue Reading →
Dad verses mom appears to be an easy win for Moms, right? You'd think it would be a slam dunk because we are natural multi-taskers, nurturers, nurses, teachers, homemakers, maids, etc. I mean, come on, we literally do it all! Or, do we? We can tease them and share random facts which are absolutely true... Continue Reading →
It doesn't matter where the love comes from, it doesn't matter if it’s a bio-parent or a step-parent – as long as there is love being freely given. Someone who gives their time, their energy, their love without any regard for a personal gain – solely to benefit the child. We all get some portion... Continue Reading →