Did I feel like a jerk and a failure on the days when I couldn't hang with the super stepmoms? Sure. But you can't base your days or family dynamics on other blended families or stepparents. It's okay to not have it figured out, it's the quitting that's bad. You have to ask yourself why God has put you where you are and how you can be used for good. There is a purpose to his plan, and you are more than capable.
If I am being honest with myself, I knew when he asked to call me mom, my answer was not coming from a kind and loving place. I knew I was coming from a "you already have a mom, and you are her responsibility, not mine" type of place. And, a place of "you are too much "work" for me."
In the shower (where it seems my clearest thoughts prevail) I was thinking about how many people lose out when they simply don't allow, encourage or welcome a relationship with their step-children. Many times I overhear that they don't accept them due to manners, dislike for the other parents, their behaviors etc. When your family... Continue Reading →
Life blows us in directions that we never see coming - or that we see the possibility of coming, but believe that they will never get that bad. Finding out you are wrong, and that it doesn't just hurt yourself but others - is a hard pill to swallow. My children have survived, managed, whatever word you... Continue Reading →